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**JacksHH** · 11-01-2010, 11:59 AM

It's hard at the moment, and you're feeling rejected and low - don't!
As has been said, they'll just be curious about their mother and be wanting to see what she's really like and you should let them - even tell them it's a good idea as, although you and her don't get on, it's not their problem.
They know they're loved by you and can rely on you to be a foundation as they start growing up in the world. Part of that world is your ex' and her family, like it or not.

TBH, I wouldn't be surprised if the experiment doesn't last very long, once she realises the time and expense involved and they realise the difference in the way the two households work.
I would say the best thing would be if the boys, in time, regard both houses as 'home' and are comfortable moving between them as they want.
They're young, but starting to feel their independence and the best thing you can do is supportt hem. Remember, it won't be long before they're chasing girls, going away to college, etc, so think of it as being a rehearsal.

11-01-2010, 11:59 AM	#9
JacksHH Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 642 Senior Member	It's hard at the moment, and you're feeling rejected and low - don't! As has been said, they'll just be curious about their mother and be wanting to see what she's really like and you should let them - even tell them it's a good idea as, although you and her don't get on, it's not their problem. They know they're loved by you and can rely on you to be a foundation as they start growing up in the world. Part of that world is your ex' and her family, like it or not. TBH, I wouldn't be surprised if the experiment doesn't last very long, once she realises the time and expense involved and they realise the difference in the way the two households work. I would say the best thing would be if the boys, in time, regard both houses as 'home' and are comfortable moving between them as they want. They're young, but starting to feel their independence and the best thing you can do is supportt hem. Remember, it won't be long before they're chasing girls, going away to college, etc, so think of it as being a rehearsal.
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