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**Lymneterfeiff** · 11-02-2010, 05:33 AM

You have full custody?

It ain't worth it to them, I know from experience! Especially sense they do not know their mom at all. The 12yr old has full right to do so, but the 9yr old can not make this decision yet, this of coarse is if you guys did everything legally.

What I would do, if you have full custody is let them stay with her for like a month or two during the summer or something. Then let them decide what they wanna do. Don't let them do it cold turkey.
You have to know that their mother has been talking them into them asking you to do this. It sucks that she is using the kids. You may want to do all go to dinner and discuss this. See what the kids really feel with both of you there. I was always used as a middle man to get what either parent wanted, I am taking a pretty good strong guess that the mother is doing the same thing.

If they do go over to her house, and stay there most of the time, and you get the weekends, DO NOT LET THEM TAKE ANYTHING FROM YOUR HOUSE TO HER HOUSE.
Games, computers, cell phones, gameboy, board games, toys, etc. Only allow them to take their hygiene products, school material and cloths.

I was 22 when she left. i had to give her alamony just to get joint custody of the boys. she wanted the money. i am self employeed and only work on the weekends so I keep them mon thru fri and she keeps them on the weekends. I am now remarried and my boys both now in 3rd and 6th grade have never brought home a B. What chances do I have in losing them if I just say f it and take her to court. she is remarried and has another child of her own as well. her husband is a great guy and makes good money. the boys changed their minds and decided to stay with me during the week but i know this isnt going to be the last i hear of it cause im sure shes killin em about it every weekend. should i thank god for the time i get and leave it or should i go to court and get some of this on paper so this cant happen again? I know you guys aint lawyers but I know your not stupid either.

11-02-2010, 05:33 AM	#20
Lymneterfeiff Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 418 Senior Member	You have full custody? It ain't worth it to them, I know from experience! Especially sense they do not know their mom at all. The 12yr old has full right to do so, but the 9yr old can not make this decision yet, this of coarse is if you guys did everything legally. What I would do, if you have full custody is let them stay with her for like a month or two during the summer or something. Then let them decide what they wanna do. Don't let them do it cold turkey. You have to know that their mother has been talking them into them asking you to do this. It sucks that she is using the kids. You may want to do all go to dinner and discuss this. See what the kids really feel with both of you there. I was always used as a middle man to get what either parent wanted, I am taking a pretty good strong guess that the mother is doing the same thing. If they do go over to her house, and stay there most of the time, and you get the weekends, DO NOT LET THEM TAKE ANYTHING FROM YOUR HOUSE TO HER HOUSE. Games, computers, cell phones, gameboy, board games, toys, etc. Only allow them to take their hygiene products, school material and cloths. I was 22 when she left. i had to give her alamony just to get joint custody of the boys. she wanted the money. i am self employeed and only work on the weekends so I keep them mon thru fri and she keeps them on the weekends. I am now remarried and my boys both now in 3rd and 6th grade have never brought home a B. What chances do I have in losing them if I just say f it and take her to court. she is remarried and has another child of her own as well. her husband is a great guy and makes good money. the boys changed their minds and decided to stay with me during the week but i know this isnt going to be the last i hear of it cause im sure shes killin em about it every weekend. should i thank god for the time i get and leave it or should i go to court and get some of this on paper so this cant happen again? I know you guys aint lawyers but I know your not stupid either.
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