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Maybe try to understand your mum what problem she have with chinese in the first place?

Sounds like his mom is just racist because she's not Italian, or not white. With people like that there is no other reason then it's how they think, how they were raised to think from birth by their parents, they don't know they are wrong because all their life while growing up that was the way to think and there was nothing wrong with it. To her what she's saying isnt' wrong because thats how she was prolly raised to think. How you are raised has a big effect on how you think even if it's not PC.

As to the OP, wish i could help you out with some advice but the only thing i can think is to say hang in there. I have known people in the same situation and they ended up either breaking up with the person they were seeing or they just stopped talking to their family and basically left them because of their intolerances. It almost sounds though that with your mom you'll end up either breaking up with your girl or just blow off your family. Sucks when you have to make a decision between family and the person you love.