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Assalam alikum wa rahmat Allah,

my brotherly advice is as follow,

from begining both of you focus on your duties and relationship with Allah SWT. for example help each other to not miss any tahajud. both do ishrag, dhuha and nafl, sunnah prayers.etc Make that the most important thing between you two and not the petty matter such as worrying about job, money, entairtainment, etc.

find a dawah work that both can be envolved or some service for Allah, muslims masjid

do lots of nature trips together, such as kayaking, boat, fishing, gardening, walking in woods etc,

Make sure from begining your wife always obey you in all matters.You set the rules according to shriah, get her used to her. be a kind but good shepard.

kitchen and house is her area try to keep out and only be helpful.

discuss verses of quran together , and make a habit of sharing your spritual finding with each other.(this is very important) especially finding treasures in quran.

always put down dunya. be keen in finding the thought process that praises dunya. be merciless that is the key for tranqulity

Make dua for each other in each prayer and ask each other for dua

read Imam Gazali's recomendations I have posted some in SF

May Allah SWt bless both of you and fill your hearts with love and compassion toward each other.