Slaam everyone, This post is for "Elder" (and I wld be harsh to say "so-called wise elders), who don't plan to marry their children early....................which dont knw anything. Who is responsible for all bad deeds which your children commit. I graduated from Pakistan aged 23 and after doing 1 yr job left from UK. Did my MSc and then planned for PhD. These elders dont knw that I am npot living in Pakistan. This is UK and western life. For how long I shld control. It is natural desires which are fuelled by open culture. I used to travel to different countries for conferences and so. I must say for how long and how you gonna control it????????????? So at age of 26.5 yrs I ended up going to a local brothel in another country. Though did not have *** but did everything else. After that I felt so much REGRET that I cant explain. I missed my flight as I went to a prayer room afterwards crying whole night and saying to GOD to forgive me and save me from this SICK life which most probably can destroy ur life. I am now 29, and finished my PHD....still my family is busy finding me a "suitable" proposal. However, I have been changed so much that I forgot to SMILE (which was my charm in 25)....! Finally I want to say one thing, which is for all ELDERS reading this post. YOUTH is very stupid and you elders better knw this and you are also responsible for all what youth wld do.............. If you ask my dad or mom abt me, they wld say "hum nein apne bachon ke aise tarbeyat kar dee ha, ke they will nt do anything"................it is just like put a child in a candy box and expect them not to pick any candy" May ALLAH give us all stright path and "aqal" so we can make progress Something about community of students (UK): MashALLAH there are good students as well. However, many of them are get involved in 4D's (Dating, Dancing, Drugging, and Drinking). The GF and BF concept is not very common but most of them commit Zina. Going in groups to different clubs and places like that is a fun thing . They are from respected families and I am sure, their parents wld be praying, fasting in Ramadan, giving Zakkat, doing Umrah and Hajj, (but for what, if their children are doing these activities). And the reason I analysed from this is only "LATE MARRIAGE" Now from a youth perspective, it is so difficult to live without a partner in west. From a parent perspective, it is not easy to find a good spouse for a student. From Islamic point of view zina is a v big sin and early marriage is favoured to avoid more sins. From our cultural point of view, late marriages are being preferred......it is such a dilemma that I can't see any solution! P.S. I am a dr. now. If you ask me why our people are not that smarter as Israel and other countries. I would say this thread is ur answer. We keep wasting our energies in this stuff, how we can compete with them who spend hrs in office without any distraction. I must stress, those who talk about the progress of Pakistan, should consider this issue. The power of youth, if used in a right direction, can bring a prosperous future to Islamic republic of Pakistan...IA!