yes this is why the hadith is only for the mother. Only the mother gives birth. Only the mother brings forward life. We are nowhere without the mother. Just as we are nowhere without Allah. The woman is the embodiement of Allahs Rahmah, specifically the womb, hence the word for womb in Arabic is Rahm. So its THROUGH the woman, that a man learns the ultimate qualities, the ones that make the woman spiritually superior. So women in some ways are spiritually superior to balance the physical superiority of a man. The responsibility of a man, is therefore to look after a woman, so he can feed off this spiritual energy and elevate himself from Muslim to Muhsin. If he disrespects a woman, he can never learn this ultimate quality, has nothing to feed off, and so doesnt increase his emaan, and stays at best having Islam, and not having Emaan. Peace to you all.