May Allah bless you sister If your husband is as you have described (bare in mind that there is always two sides to a story) then no you shoudlnt stay with him, he sounds like a terrible husband and inshAllah you can do a lot better an perhaps he will realise he shouldnt treat people like that. I advise to at least raise the issue of divorce with him, tell him how your feeling and what issues you have, tell him from a deen point of view that yo have no obligation to work, taht he should not call you a failure and that it hurts your feelings, and if you dont see improvements, leave him before you have children as its a lot tougher to leave after having children. Make the deen the centre of your life inshAllah, and make islam the judge on what rights you both have, and what success is defined as, if we all agree on islam as the standard then there wont be any arguements wallahu a'lam