This can be very depressing. So we cannot enjoy ourselves even alittle? No laughter no joy just fearing the grave and death? Or is it the case that this is to wean humans away from extreme love of this world and to bring the akhira into focus? I do wonder why Allah would make sexual pleasure something desirable if we are not meant to feel any joy...Is it not that we must procreate and have some joy within the ring fence of the halaal without making these our goal? Yes the punishment of the grave is a reality, but sometimes the fear of it makes people become hopeless.