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**Ruilnasr** · 06-04-2012, 11:22 AM

Asalam Alaikum

May Allah s.w.a shower his blessings on you all.

How does one stop losing his concentration/passion on deen when his has to deal with a disobedient wife?

For instance due to her disobedience/selfishness he gets really upset and feels like a ton of bricks has fallen on him.
He becomes really depressed which destroys his concentration in prayers, Dhikr etc...
But when things go back on track with his wife so does his deen.

If I am understanding you correctly, you are saying that when things are going well in his relationship with his wife, then he is able to concentrate on his deen, but when things are not going well, then he loses it. I think his outlook needs to change. Ones relationship with God is not dependent upon ones relationship with people. The entire world could turn against a man, yet God is still there. When times are not good between the man and his wife, instead of allowing it to affect his relationship with God, he should seek God for solace and comfort in his distress. The problem here is not the wife's "disobedience." The problem is the husband allowing another to come between him and God.

If there is this much strife in the marriage, then the couple should seek marital help.

06-04-2012, 11:22 AM	#4
Ruilnasr Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 405 Senior Member	Asalam Alaikum May Allah s.w.a shower his blessings on you all. How does one stop losing his concentration/passion on deen when his has to deal with a disobedient wife? For instance due to her disobedience/selfishness he gets really upset and feels like a ton of bricks has fallen on him. He becomes really depressed which destroys his concentration in prayers, Dhikr etc... But when things go back on track with his wife so does his deen. If I am understanding you correctly, you are saying that when things are going well in his relationship with his wife, then he is able to concentrate on his deen, but when things are not going well, then he loses it. I think his outlook needs to change. Ones relationship with God is not dependent upon ones relationship with people. The entire world could turn against a man, yet God is still there. When times are not good between the man and his wife, instead of allowing it to affect his relationship with God, he should seek God for solace and comfort in his distress. The problem here is not the wife's "disobedience." The problem is the husband allowing another to come between him and God. If there is this much strife in the marriage, then the couple should seek marital help.
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