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**Tapupah** · 12-02-2010, 11:53 AM

Hm, interesting discussion. I'll have to agree with br al-Mufakkir on this one.

We women, with all our jealousy and possessiveness, which YES s natural, also have to realize that a man's desires are natural too. Allah gave these to us and we have to deal with these feelings.

coincidently yesterday my husband was gone somewhere, so when one of my students asked where, the other teacher said "sotan". the student asked what it meant so I replied "second wife", to which the student exclaimed, "Astaghfirullah!"

Now this is the attitude even youngsters have now! polygyny, a sunnah, such a taboo that it receives and Astaghfirullah!

I can't believe it!!!!!!!

you out of everyone betrayed me!!! .. (lol)

Okay, so we both have diff natural feelings so we should equal out - : a man satisfies himself with his wife, and the wife will do all she can to keep him happy, they have their own kids... there! life isn't fair anyway so thats why our main goal is to just try our best to follow all that Allah (SWT) commands us and therefore we will be rewarded in Jannah with all that we desire. We deal with them by evening out our feelings between each other.

But I'm not saying Astaghfirullah about it lol I understand why Allah (SWT) allowed it in Islam. Maybe after I'm 30 or 40 and I have a stable family in both deen and finance, I'll even encourage him to marry women who are in need. But not for his desires, because if I marry someone who doesn't think I'm enough, then he can go out and look for several who are.

12-02-2010, 11:53 AM	#26
Tapupah Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 474 Senior Member	Hm, interesting discussion. I'll have to agree with br al-Mufakkir on this one. We women, with all our jealousy and possessiveness, which YES s natural, also have to realize that a man's desires are natural too. Allah gave these to us and we have to deal with these feelings. coincidently yesterday my husband was gone somewhere, so when one of my students asked where, the other teacher said "sotan". the student asked what it meant so I replied "second wife", to which the student exclaimed, "Astaghfirullah!" Now this is the attitude even youngsters have now! polygyny, a sunnah, such a taboo that it receives and Astaghfirullah! I can't believe it!!!!!!! you out of everyone betrayed me!!! .. (lol) Okay, so we both have diff natural feelings so we should equal out - : a man satisfies himself with his wife, and the wife will do all she can to keep him happy, they have their own kids... there! life isn't fair anyway so thats why our main goal is to just try our best to follow all that Allah (SWT) commands us and therefore we will be rewarded in Jannah with all that we desire. We deal with them by evening out our feelings between each other. But I'm not saying Astaghfirullah about it lol I understand why Allah (SWT) allowed it in Islam. Maybe after I'm 30 or 40 and I have a stable family in both deen and finance, I'll even encourage him to marry women who are in need. But not for his desires, because if I marry someone who doesn't think I'm enough, then he can go out and look for several who are.
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