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If that was the case, why did Allah made polygamy lawful in the first place? And that too with not many restrictions? Ta'addud-e-azwaaj is in the fitrah of man. Try as you might to explain it away, but men, generally speaking, are polygamous by nature, just as women are possessive and jealous by nature.



Why should he control himself when Allah has already given him a lawful means to fulfill those desires? Why would he restrict himself from that which Allah has made halaal for him?



What is there to feel sorry about?



Perhaps. But then again, we all know what happened when the Messenger of Allah , in order to please his wives, prohibited for himself that which Allah made permissible:

يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ لِمَ تُحَرِّمُ مَا أَحَلَّ اللَّهُ لَكَ تَبْتَغِي مَرْضَاتَ أَزْوَاجِكَ وَاللَّهُ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ
66:1 O PROPHET! Why dost thou, out of a desire to please [one or another of] thy wives, impose [on thyself] a prohibition of something that God has made lawful to thee? But God is much-forgiving, a dispenser of grace

Polygamy was not only made lawful just for a man to please himself with it - though men can use it that way.

You're wrong there. Not all women are jealous actually. There are women out there who have no problem with their husband marrying other wives. Some actually like it. Just the same, not all men are polygamous. Some think just one special wife is enough.

Possessive?! We are not possessive! lol.. it can also be said that men are dissatisfied

"Why should he control himself when Allah has already given him a lawful means to fulfill those desires? Why would he restrict himself from that which Allah has made halaal for him?"

Okay.... you got me there... I've heard that phrase a billion times. Well, if he truly loves his wife he wouldn't need another one. And I know you're going to say "fulfilling his 'desire' doesn't meant he doesn't truly love his wife" but if you look at it this way, it does: he gets married with his wife, she's all his, no other man can see her, she does her best to always be there for him only and be the best wife and mom, then he brings another lady into their life because she doesn't satisfy him. There are many things that are lawful but why go there if that's really not an important purpose of life? BUT AGAIN: if he really needs another wife and he'll go into zina if he doesn't get married, I'm not saying it's haram!


يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ لِمَ تُحَرِّمُ مَا أَحَلَّ اللَّهُ لَكَ تَبْتَغِي مَرْضَاتَ أَزْوَاجِكَ وَاللَّهُ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ

That ayah does not specifically adress polygamy!! So you're saying that a man can go out despite his what his (first) wife thinks and marry (an)other lady(s)?


"What is there to feel sorry about? "

Sorry, that probably sounded wrong, it was just my opinion = I wouldn't mind if my future husband would want to marry another lady to help her out .. but not if he doesn't think I'm enough. I may be wrong, but thats my view. I apologize.