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**Freeptube** · 12-02-2010, 01:13 PM

Polygamy was not only made lawful just for a man to please himself with it - though men can use it that way.

Like I said, polygamy in Islam is not for men to just go wild. It comes with its own burden and share of greater responsibilities. If the man is ready to pay that price for his pleasures, what's wrong with it?

You're wrong there. Not all women are jealous actually. There are women out there who have no problem with their husband marrying other wives. Some actually like it. But none who aren't jealous of their co-wives. And if not jealousy, there most certainly is competition between them.

Just the same, not all men are polygamous. Some think just one special wife is enough. Then you don't know men. We only say one wife is enough because don't want to sleep on the sofa and want our breakfast ready in the morning.

Possessive?!

We are not possessive! lol.. it can also be said that men are dissatisfied

One thing's for sure - if there is nothing stopping a man from taking a second wife, he most definitely will. Things such as limited financial means, social stigma and risking harmonious relations with his first wife are some of the reasons why men say they are 'happy' with just one wife.

Okay.... you got me there... I've heard that phrase a billion times. Well, if he truly loves his wife he wouldn't need another one. And I know you're going to say "fulfilling his 'desire' doesn't meant he doesn't truly love his wife" but if you look at it this way, it does: he gets married with his wife, she's all his, no other man can see her, she does her best to always be there for him only and be the best wife and mom, then he brings another lady into their life because she doesn't satisfy him. There are many things that are lawful but why go there if that's really not an important purpose of life? BUT AGAIN: if he really needs another wife and he'll go into zina if he doesn't get married, I'm not saying it's haram! I would talk about this in more detail but I feel we're skirting the limits of modesty on this discussion as is so all I'll say is: a man can easily get attracted to another woman even if he is fully satisfied with his current wife.

That ayah does not specifically adress polygamy!! So you're saying that a man can go out despite his what his (first) wife thinks and marry (an)other lady(s)? No, it does not address polygamy directly but it does address making something impermissible (no polygamy clause in marriage contracts) which Allah

has made permissible (polygamy).

Sorry, that probably sounded wrong, it was just my opinion = I wouldn't mind if my future husband would want to marry another lady to help her out .. but not if he doesn't think I'm enough. I may be wrong, but thats my view. I apologize. No need to apologize. I understand what you're saying. I'm not married either...and I hope my future wife doesn't see this.

12-02-2010, 01:13 PM	#37
Freeptube Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 589 Senior Member	Polygamy was not only made lawful just for a man to please himself with it - though men can use it that way. Like I said, polygamy in Islam is not for men to just go wild. It comes with its own burden and share of greater responsibilities. If the man is ready to pay that price for his pleasures, what's wrong with it? You're wrong there. Not all women are jealous actually. There are women out there who have no problem with their husband marrying other wives. Some actually like it. But none who aren't jealous of their co-wives. And if not jealousy, there most certainly is competition between them. Just the same, not all men are polygamous. Some think just one special wife is enough. Then you don't know men. We only say one wife is enough because don't want to sleep on the sofa and want our breakfast ready in the morning. Possessive?! We are not possessive! lol.. it can also be said that men are dissatisfied One thing's for sure - if there is nothing stopping a man from taking a second wife, he most definitely will. Things such as limited financial means, social stigma and risking harmonious relations with his first wife are some of the reasons why men say they are 'happy' with just one wife. Okay.... you got me there... I've heard that phrase a billion times. Well, if he truly loves his wife he wouldn't need another one. And I know you're going to say "fulfilling his 'desire' doesn't meant he doesn't truly love his wife" but if you look at it this way, it does: he gets married with his wife, she's all his, no other man can see her, she does her best to always be there for him only and be the best wife and mom, then he brings another lady into their life because she doesn't satisfy him. There are many things that are lawful but why go there if that's really not an important purpose of life? BUT AGAIN: if he really needs another wife and he'll go into zina if he doesn't get married, I'm not saying it's haram! I would talk about this in more detail but I feel we're skirting the limits of modesty on this discussion as is so all I'll say is: a man can easily get attracted to another woman even if he is fully satisfied with his current wife. That ayah does not specifically adress polygamy!! So you're saying that a man can go out despite his what his (first) wife thinks and marry (an)other lady(s)? No, it does not address polygamy directly but it does address making something impermissible (no polygamy clause in marriage contracts) which Allah has made permissible (polygamy). Sorry, that probably sounded wrong, it was just my opinion = I wouldn't mind if my future husband would want to marry another lady to help her out .. but not if he doesn't think I'm enough. I may be wrong, but thats my view. I apologize. No need to apologize. I understand what you're saying. I'm not married either...and I hope my future wife doesn't see this.
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