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**moredasers** · 11-06-2008, 07:38 PM

okay I'll pass the details on to her. I wanted to know of the other mosque in Birmingham that provides divorce/marital problems service,as the "brother" might contact them. So if you know and it is not reliable etc please do let me know. If not, no worries.

I could not help but comment on this. I know this is a major generalisation (and there are good brothers even in Birmingham) but I'd advise sisters to be extra cautious when considering to marry someone born and bred in Birmingham. It's a regional thing. Too many sisters married to someone from Birmingham find themselves in the same predicament as the sister.

Asslamo Allaikum,

I am purposely not giving some names in this thread but there are lots of “dodgy” people in Birmingham wrecking the lives of Muslim Sisters particularly on the polygamy front where Muslim Sisters are being blackmailed, duped (and conned) into marrying some utterly diabolical nutcase Muslim men(LOOSERS) in the name of Following the Sunnah.

2-3 years later these Sisters have multiple children, husband is a BUM (doesn’t work, doesn’t support and beats them up) and they are psychologically damaged goods, and most then never have a healthy-realtionship with even good people.

East Coast of US went through a phase of same thing (it was called revolving-door-marriages) in the 80’s & 90’s but it was mostly a Salafi thing but in Birmingham it’s a mess amongst Deobandees, Barelwees Salafees & Ahl-e-Hadeeth….Scandals amongst Imams, Scholars & laymen alike!

I think the Ummah needs to do something about Marriage issues in UK (particularly in Birmingham) and Sisters need to be advised and some basic guidelines need to be instituted.

First and foremost Sisters need to understand that they are UNDER NO OBLIGATION to marry if they don’t want to and they shouldn’t get into a ticking-time-bomb-mentality (i.e. I am getting older and I definitely need to find someone and FAST!) or I need a man to support my kids etc...or I wear a Niqab so its hard for me to walk around and get my groceries etc.

All of these are difficulties but a lot easier to deal with then to get slapped and cut-up with a knife.

People should marry the right people and if they don't find anyone so be it.

11-06-2008, 07:38 PM	#16
moredasers Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 437 Senior Member	okay I'll pass the details on to her. I wanted to know of the other mosque in Birmingham that provides divorce/marital problems service,as the "brother" might contact them. So if you know and it is not reliable etc please do let me know. If not, no worries. I could not help but comment on this. I know this is a major generalisation (and there are good brothers even in Birmingham) but I'd advise sisters to be extra cautious when considering to marry someone born and bred in Birmingham. It's a regional thing. Too many sisters married to someone from Birmingham find themselves in the same predicament as the sister. Asslamo Allaikum, I am purposely not giving some names in this thread but there are lots of “dodgy” people in Birmingham wrecking the lives of Muslim Sisters particularly on the polygamy front where Muslim Sisters are being blackmailed, duped (and conned) into marrying some utterly diabolical nutcase Muslim men(LOOSERS) in the name of Following the Sunnah. 2-3 years later these Sisters have multiple children, husband is a BUM (doesn’t work, doesn’t support and beats them up) and they are psychologically damaged goods, and most then never have a healthy-realtionship with even good people. East Coast of US went through a phase of same thing (it was called revolving-door-marriages) in the 80’s & 90’s but it was mostly a Salafi thing but in Birmingham it’s a mess amongst Deobandees, Barelwees Salafees & Ahl-e-Hadeeth….Scandals amongst Imams, Scholars & laymen alike! I think the Ummah needs to do something about Marriage issues in UK (particularly in Birmingham) and Sisters need to be advised and some basic guidelines need to be instituted. First and foremost Sisters need to understand that they are UNDER NO OBLIGATION to marry if they don’t want to and they shouldn’t get into a ticking-time-bomb-mentality (i.e. I am getting older and I definitely need to find someone and FAST!) or I need a man to support my kids etc...or I wear a Niqab so its hard for me to walk around and get my groceries etc. All of these are difficulties but a lot easier to deal with then to get slapped and cut-up with a knife. People should marry the right people and if they don't find anyone so be it.
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