Since the past few days I have been going through tough times since I watched this pic... http://i1091.photobucket.com/albums/...6_24665769.jpgI have been unable to concentrate in namaz, or anything else for that matter, don't know why 'coz I have watched the pic before, 2 years back, I follow the boston big picture every year at Ramadhan, yet this time its been something else altogether, its quite embarrassing for me to be saying all this here. Yet, I have a niece around that age as the kid, and I can't bear to, lets cut a long story short, have made niyyah to adopt a kid esp. females, 'coz they can be exploited (prostitution etc) and go through much tougher times than the males, I see my niece in that pic rather than the kid, and I feel its more important to actually adopt the kid, be a real father/mother to him rather than just funding his/her upbringing at an orphan home, I want to give a normal upbringing, I'm no warren buffet nor am I looking at my finances for the funds, I'm looking at Allah's treasure and ask for His help, and at the moment the intention is just for 1 kid, I ask Allah SWT to give me taufeeq to be able to fulfill my intentions, aamen. I'm working, I earn, thats no problem. I spoke to mom regarding this and though at first she looked sort of ok with it, the second time she gave me an awkward look, I think the first time she thought I was moved by the pic and just acting accordingly, building castles in the air or something... I can only recall this quote of Ml Ilyasji rh here: "Our success lies in fulfilling our responsibilities" So I want to do all I can I have some questions for which I need suggestions, answers: a. how to convince parents? is there a bayan lecture which I could make them listen to? b. how to convince future parents in law? future wife? c. do you think I'm being too enthusiastic for now and should put this off for a later date? post marriage? d. if I adopt now would it seem awkward? me being unmarried and all? e. if I adopt now and get the kid to be taken care of at some other place and later after getting married get the kid home? >e1. how to convince future wife/parents in law if something like this does occur? No, I'm not waiting for an afghan or iraqi kid, I'll adopt one from my own place, but really is it possible to adopt from those places? Do anyone of you know? Any ideas? 'coz these are war-torn countries and adopting from these places seems a little bit better, 'coz of the exploitation and stuff... I ask Allah SWT that in my lifetime He should make me see, come across that poor girl in better times, please, summa aamen. Allah SWT has power over everything, wish somehow, I could adopt that girl...I'll love her more than my own niece I'll forget that I ever had a niece, I'll love her so much there are 2 reasons I posted this here: 1. for your opinion. 2. who knows even you may feel the same and may adopt too. I have cried over that kid totally to say this. One things certain adoption will happen some way or the other. Its only matter of time.