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Old 04-24-2012, 12:50 PM   #5
GoblinGaga

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Salaam all.. A muslim sister who I go too school with was telling me that her and her family went to a ''christening'' of her mums friends new born baby, I said to her this is wrong as we are Muslims and dont believe in such practice therefore it's not right for her and her family to be going to these sort of ocasions. Isit ok to attend these sort of religious ceromonies as Islam is the only one and only true religion so therefore attending these christenings would be almost submitting to there beliefs would it not?.. or maybe the intention would be to go and show support for a non muslim friend and try not to converse in the actual ceromony it self-would that be ok?

She automatically became extremely defensive, justifying how theres nothing wrong with it, and then started to say that were all going to our own graves and that we all do bad things including me and nobody is perfect.

Iv'e been going to school with her and known her for around 7 years, we know eachother quite well, so I did'nt see the problem in telling her this was wrong as there are usually prety much no barriers-so we feel free to talk about things openly.
We have both apolagised to eachother but she said she dosent like people judging her, I replied and said I always tell you how I feel and be straight up with you, id rather be that than 2faced. She obviously did'nt like my honesty.

Can someone tell me wether what I did is judging or not?
Was it wrong for me to tell her it's wrong etc allthough I know her family is very very westornised as it is so In a way I wasnt ''that shocked''.

I was also kind of angry with her already so therefore I was rubbing it in even more trying to prove that she is actually wrong, so therefore ''maybe'' my intention wasnt right? Maybe I was TOTALLY wrong.

Your thoughts and advice would be great

Jazak'Allah
You are not judging her, you are judging her actions according to the standard of Quran and sunnah, in line with what our scholars have said on the issue after deeply studying it.

Judging her would be if you held her in contempt and you did no such thing. "Don't judge me" is a common argument used by a lot of people engaged in sin and its usually more used when Islamic perspective is given on non Islamic practices, people say "don't judge me".
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