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**Qeiafib** · 03-20-2012, 11:07 AM

As Salamu 'alaykum,
hope few ppl know me in this forum. I am now in India -in my hometown. Came for vacation 2 weeks.

Since i joined the effort of tabligh, I changed. I am now with Sunnah beard and with good discipline. My family doesnt like it.
My maternal and paternal uncles who doesnt pray are forcing me to take the beard off and they are angry that I am involved with Tabligh, moreover I am not indulged in going to movies, watching unwanted TV prog, roaming outside - these things are bothering them. Still people here talk baseless hate stories of pakistan & they are telling me that having beard and following 100% islam should be in afghanistan and saudi.

They are asking me to get married. My opinion is
1. there is no deen in my house. the girl's and my life would get screwed.
2. Elders have said me to get married after going for 4 months jammat. - InshaAllah, I think this ll make a change. I didnt discussed with my family. If i tell this, my uncle would definitely hit my local hometown amir.
please advice. thanks.

only my dad supports me in matters of deen.
IS IT BAD TO FOLLOW THE SUNNAH AND STAY IN DEEN????

At least your father supports your efforts, may Allah bless him. For some, even the father is pressuring them to shave or trim the beard. As for your uncles, you don't have to obey them, especially not when they are opposing the shariah. It doesn't matter what they think.

Getting married...you need to find a girl who is as committed to the deen as you. Do not let your non-practicing family choose the girl. Since you live in the US, why not look for a wife who lives here as well?

You are only there for two weeks, so don't be hasty and make a decision you will regret later on. Once you come back, the pressure from your family will be off and you can make the right choice.

03-20-2012, 11:07 AM	#3
Qeiafib Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 526 Senior Member	As Salamu 'alaykum, hope few ppl know me in this forum. I am now in India -in my hometown. Came for vacation 2 weeks. Since i joined the effort of tabligh, I changed. I am now with Sunnah beard and with good discipline. My family doesnt like it. My maternal and paternal uncles who doesnt pray are forcing me to take the beard off and they are angry that I am involved with Tabligh, moreover I am not indulged in going to movies, watching unwanted TV prog, roaming outside - these things are bothering them. Still people here talk baseless hate stories of pakistan & they are telling me that having beard and following 100% islam should be in afghanistan and saudi. They are asking me to get married. My opinion is 1. there is no deen in my house. the girl's and my life would get screwed. 2. Elders have said me to get married after going for 4 months jammat. - InshaAllah, I think this ll make a change. I didnt discussed with my family. If i tell this, my uncle would definitely hit my local hometown amir. please advice. thanks. only my dad supports me in matters of deen. IS IT BAD TO FOLLOW THE SUNNAH AND STAY IN DEEN???? At least your father supports your efforts, may Allah bless him. For some, even the father is pressuring them to shave or trim the beard. As for your uncles, you don't have to obey them, especially not when they are opposing the shariah. It doesn't matter what they think. Getting married...you need to find a girl who is as committed to the deen as you. Do not let your non-practicing family choose the girl. Since you live in the US, why not look for a wife who lives here as well? You are only there for two weeks, so don't be hasty and make a decision you will regret later on. Once you come back, the pressure from your family will be off and you can make the right choice.
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