that lady in tha thread on vanity and narcissism is an American lady. Some times I feel spiritually, critisism is less damaging and easier to face than praise especially for those who have successful dunyawi careers and wealth along with some zahiri manifestations of deen. Every one praises such a person-in the masjid, in the jamaat, in the office, in the family, in the home (probable exception is wife), in the neighbourhood , etc. Very dangerous. Unless such a person meets a Shaykh of Tasawwuf, it's very difficult for him to escape from ujb and takabbur. may Allah save us all.