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**DuesTyr** · 03-21-2012, 07:11 AM

May Allah forgive me for asking such a stupid question:

I try my best to be the perfect muslim, following the example of nabiyullah sallahu alayhi wasalam.
In this case i try my very best to lower my gaze, and how tough is this task when living in a city like this (london).
So i'm a student at this college in west london, and there's a learning center or libary where students do extra study, i usually go there to catch up or to study in general. This beautiful girl who i don't know if she's muslim or not, for a while i noticed she looks at me at times, when i look back she looks away and talks to her frinds, today one of my friends told me that when i was walking out of the libary she was looking at me for a good 4 seconds, i try my best not to excite this situation, but i must not be harsh on this girl, and say "Don't give me looks" Neither would i walk up to her with the haram pick up line " U wanna go out with me" I still await to see how this situation elevates, I'd like to here from the muslim ummah how do i handle such a situation in a appropiate islamic way?

Jazakallah.

As-salaamu Alaikum my brother Is'haaq,

In my humble opinion, the best thing to do in such a situation, would be to remove yourself entirely from such an environment. If it would be possible to find some other area to study in, then seek it out. As, muslims we should not even go NEAR zina, let alone actually commit any form of zina. Approaching the girl would provide absolutely no benefit, and since you already state that you are attracted to her, it would lead to potentially greater temptation.

Allah (SWT) knows best.

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DuesTyr Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 566 Senior Member	May Allah forgive me for asking such a stupid question: I try my best to be the perfect muslim, following the example of nabiyullah sallahu alayhi wasalam. In this case i try my very best to lower my gaze, and how tough is this task when living in a city like this (london). So i'm a student at this college in west london, and there's a learning center or libary where students do extra study, i usually go there to catch up or to study in general. This beautiful girl who i don't know if she's muslim or not, for a while i noticed she looks at me at times, when i look back she looks away and talks to her frinds, today one of my friends told me that when i was walking out of the libary she was looking at me for a good 4 seconds, i try my best not to excite this situation, but i must not be harsh on this girl, and say "Don't give me looks" Neither would i walk up to her with the haram pick up line " U wanna go out with me" I still await to see how this situation elevates, I'd like to here from the muslim ummah how do i handle such a situation in a appropiate islamic way? Jazakallah. As-salaamu Alaikum my brother Is'haaq, In my humble opinion, the best thing to do in such a situation, would be to remove yourself entirely from such an environment. If it would be possible to find some other area to study in, then seek it out. As, muslims we should not even go NEAR zina, let alone actually commit any form of zina. Approaching the girl would provide absolutely no benefit, and since you already state that you are attracted to her, it would lead to potentially greater temptation. Allah (SWT) knows best.
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