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**educationonlines** · 03-21-2012, 06:49 PM

Some of them are in the same class as me so it's a daily thing. But would not getting involved with them solve the hatred in my heart towards them? I have a feeling that it may go away, but once I either remember them or I see them, it will come back again. It's scary because I'm actually wishing and saying something very evil about my own muslim sisters! I don't know why I can't control this anger but I guess it's the betrayal from some of them. It's the betrayal that whenever I honestly try and maintain a straight forward relationship with them, they try and twist that into an invitation and to try and play a little game. Just that little look they have in their eyes and that prolonged stare - you know what I mean - it really makes them the most ugliest in my sight IMHO. How can you walk around pretending you're all modest and then give me that look? That's kind of like hypocrisy and betrayal. But they're still my muslim sisters? So I can't say things like that? If they physically make a move (like pull me or fall on me), and Allah knows best, I have a fear that I will punch them. Literally, destroy their face for good so they become an example to everyone else. And any other sister or brother that tries and do something to defend that person I will probably destroy them too. That's how serious and dangerous the situation is...
Allahu musta'an

What do you mean by "straight forward relationship"? Just tell them you cannot speak to them and do not speak to them. They'll leave you alone. Maintaining any sort of relationship with ghayr mahram women only leads to disaster. They may not know if they're doing anything. In fact, your "straight forward relationship" probably confuses them into thinking you're lax in your deen, even if you're really not and that is probably not the impression you want to give.

03-21-2012, 06:49 PM	#7
educationonlines Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 478 Senior Member	Some of them are in the same class as me so it's a daily thing. But would not getting involved with them solve the hatred in my heart towards them? I have a feeling that it may go away, but once I either remember them or I see them, it will come back again. It's scary because I'm actually wishing and saying something very evil about my own muslim sisters! I don't know why I can't control this anger but I guess it's the betrayal from some of them. It's the betrayal that whenever I honestly try and maintain a straight forward relationship with them, they try and twist that into an invitation and to try and play a little game. Just that little look they have in their eyes and that prolonged stare - you know what I mean - it really makes them the most ugliest in my sight IMHO. How can you walk around pretending you're all modest and then give me that look? That's kind of like hypocrisy and betrayal. But they're still my muslim sisters? So I can't say things like that? If they physically make a move (like pull me or fall on me), and Allah knows best, I have a fear that I will punch them. Literally, destroy their face for good so they become an example to everyone else. And any other sister or brother that tries and do something to defend that person I will probably destroy them too. That's how serious and dangerous the situation is... Allahu musta'an What do you mean by "straight forward relationship"? Just tell them you cannot speak to them and do not speak to them. They'll leave you alone. Maintaining any sort of relationship with ghayr mahram women only leads to disaster. They may not know if they're doing anything. In fact, your "straight forward relationship" probably confuses them into thinking you're lax in your deen, even if you're really not and that is probably not the impression you want to give.
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