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**TerAlelmlor** · 03-21-2012, 07:58 PM

No I don't. It's not the approach. It's the look when you happen to cross or enter a bus etc. (and when I say appproaches I don't mean actually approaches but just like they have a question, which happens rarely alhamdullilah). But I am afraid a day will come when that approach will be made by someone who is highly ignorant or highly mischeivous, and that's why I'm setting a defense mechanism :S. Funny thing is that growing a sunnah beard and wearing a turban actually might make it worse because then they think that you are the pious ideal man for them and they have been constantly told since young that go for a pious man.

Seems to me the only way you would know if someone was looking at you is if you were looking at them. So should the other person get angry at you for a passing glance? The muslimah who is pious enough to want a man who wears a sunnah beard and turban, would not interact with a ghayr mahram beyond an accidental glance unless she is in need. Brother, this is all just in your head. There is no reason for you to get angry at people.

Your focus should be on yourself. Simply remove yourself from the situation. This was the approach of Yusuf

Then leave your affair to Allah.

May Allah bless you.

03-21-2012, 07:58 PM	#18
TerAlelmlor Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 591 Senior Member	No I don't. It's not the approach. It's the look when you happen to cross or enter a bus etc. (and when I say appproaches I don't mean actually approaches but just like they have a question, which happens rarely alhamdullilah). But I am afraid a day will come when that approach will be made by someone who is highly ignorant or highly mischeivous, and that's why I'm setting a defense mechanism :S. Funny thing is that growing a sunnah beard and wearing a turban actually might make it worse because then they think that you are the pious ideal man for them and they have been constantly told since young that go for a pious man. Seems to me the only way you would know if someone was looking at you is if you were looking at them. So should the other person get angry at you for a passing glance? The muslimah who is pious enough to want a man who wears a sunnah beard and turban, would not interact with a ghayr mahram beyond an accidental glance unless she is in need. Brother, this is all just in your head. There is no reason for you to get angry at people. Your focus should be on yourself. Simply remove yourself from the situation. This was the approach of Yusuf Then leave your affair to Allah. May Allah bless you.
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