with all due respect to the ulemah...i have often heard statements such as these...i have often heard the ulemah advising people to marry from pious families...to look at the characteristics of parents and siblings of that person so what happens to those people who come from families who are not practising? a brother goes to her house...to find her mahram clean shaven...her mum without proper hijaab...maybe they have pictures in the house...maybe there is some bollywood song playing in the background somewhere...so the judgement is made upon her although she may not agree with any of this but does not have the power to change her family....the cycle continues...she must now marry into a similar family as her own and again be exposed to the same things...houses full of pictures...bollywood films and songs playing constantly..free mixing etc her children will also then be exposed to this stuff all because she was judged by the sins of others khair... to the OP....find out if the girl is interested in wearing hijaab in the future...if she prays...if she does not pray...does she wish to pray in the future...does she feel she needs to be a better Muslim? If she acknowledges her weaknesses in deen and would like to improve then these are good signs...wallahu alam