[SantaGanstag]

Salam

Yes, be a realist. Guys will come and go. The more you loose yourself out completely to a guy in this manner the more it will get tougher to get out of it. Its like drugs.

So keep all the emotions aside and think whether the guy is good in his religion. Check the family background is good in their religion. Check whether he can meet your monetary needs. If your of marriageable age, then you should get the guy to make a proposal officially to your parents as a gentleman would do.

If your not of marriageable age, then your wasting your time. If he is not good in his religion, then its a threat to your own religion.

Also look at it in this way. You know your doing something that is not halal. Do you think something prohibited would lead you to something good ? Can there be any good outcome hoped by doing something prohibited? It is satan that makes attractive the door of prohibition and tempts you to open it and there is no good to be hoped for by entering the door of prohibition.

Allah has given halal methods of getting married. Make use of it. Life is short and this world is mere a travellers route to the real world. So don't miss or divert away from the goal, by temporary attractions along the way. Instead, make the goal of your travel firm and clear, and everything else around you including your marriage or relationships should be used as tool to help you with this goal of your travel.