[SiM7W2zi]

I apologize in advance...because my post will be all over the place.....

I am in a dilemma.... and don't know how to get out of the situation? or fix it ..make it 'islamic' as possible?

At the time my dad booked the hall for the wedding reception (baraat) I did not know of the disagreeable customs mentioned in the article.
The hall is already booked and a non-refundable deposit has already been made. Now I am thinking I could have convinced my family of not even having a baraat day and just for the guy's side to host a walimah. Although it is not necessary for the parents of the bride to host a reception, is it haram and sinful for them to do so?...To invite guests and give a dinner before the 'rukhsati'/ zifaf at a hall?

There are three main days for the wedding in pakistani culture: the mehndi, the barat/nikah, and the walimah. I am still in the process of convincing my family to not have a mehndi. inshAllah.
In the weddings here... people go all out... with the expenses. I was thinking how I am being 'islamic' by having a minimum guest list, getting a small banquet hall, no photgraphy or videography, and nasheeds and no music, islamic speeches, Quran, no mixing, ...no extra expenses. There's a lot of customs I am trying to bust from previous weddings done in our family (ref: sunnah marriage movement) and inshAllah I will be successful inshAllah.

may Allah guide us all to have simple Islamic weddings full of His SWT mercy and blessings. ameen

How do I convince the families for:
-no cake cutting
-no sitting on stage together
-no indo-pak customs (dhood pilayi, throwing flower petals on groom and baraat, holding Quran above the bride's head upon rukhsati, etc.)


I also need your suggestions for another important thing: the hall that is booked has a partition in the middle for the 'segregation' (I initially thought that would be okay...because most of the guests are close family, and I saw it happen at many friends' weddings)... but there is no curtain or wall in between. Any suggestions for how to make a partition or wall between the two sides of the hall? I really need ideas...

JazakAllah Khair to everyone in advance for suggestions.
please pray for me...
i want to have a wedding full of haya and barakah. and Allah's pleasure.
inshAllah.

http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/show...edding-customs