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**Doncarlito** · 02-27-2012, 07:26 AM

I homeschool and Alhamdulillah it has been very beneficial, emotionally. We didn't always homeschool. He went to public school like everyone else until it became very, very painfully obvious that he did not fit the neat little box every boy and girl is supposed to fit into (incidentally, I think there is more to the little box than meets the eye... we think everyone is supposed to fit the box equally but we know that is not the case and some get a bigger box with more room to move than others). I'm not advocating for homeschooling, I'm just saying that it is a choice some parents make and reasons aren't always limited to religious differences.

I don't smoke but the apple-of-my-eye took up smoking and that habit broke my heart. Does this mean I am a deficient mother? Maybe I am... I'm sure many of my faults have affected him in one way or another. However, connections are not that simple. Children are not just products of their parents (assuming heredity plays a role in our mannerisms to some degree), they are also products (or by-products) of their surroundings - their parents are products of their environment too (by 'product' I don't mean creation, I mean mannerisms and things that take shape through decisions we make).

Children have a right to a good upbringing but we have a collective responsibility towards each other - child and adult, man and woman, able bodied and disabled, regardless of skin colour or culture... come on, isn't this what Islam is all about! The greatest sin is shirk... all other sins involve community in one form or another - even prayer - congregational prayer, teaching prayer, following a madhab!

It is threads like this that will insha'Allah take us out of ourselves and let us realize that to gain a lot (heaven) perhaps we need to re-focus on all the little interactions we have here, during our limited time in dunya.

JazakAllah khair for bringing this to our attention... let's talk about all of our responsibilities - starting from the ground up, rather from the top down (so to speak).

02-27-2012, 07:26 AM	#12
Doncarlito Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 538 Senior Member	I homeschool and Alhamdulillah it has been very beneficial, emotionally. We didn't always homeschool. He went to public school like everyone else until it became very, very painfully obvious that he did not fit the neat little box every boy and girl is supposed to fit into (incidentally, I think there is more to the little box than meets the eye... we think everyone is supposed to fit the box equally but we know that is not the case and some get a bigger box with more room to move than others). I'm not advocating for homeschooling, I'm just saying that it is a choice some parents make and reasons aren't always limited to religious differences. I don't smoke but the apple-of-my-eye took up smoking and that habit broke my heart. Does this mean I am a deficient mother? Maybe I am... I'm sure many of my faults have affected him in one way or another. However, connections are not that simple. Children are not just products of their parents (assuming heredity plays a role in our mannerisms to some degree), they are also products (or by-products) of their surroundings - their parents are products of their environment too (by 'product' I don't mean creation, I mean mannerisms and things that take shape through decisions we make). Children have a right to a good upbringing but we have a collective responsibility towards each other - child and adult, man and woman, able bodied and disabled, regardless of skin colour or culture... come on, isn't this what Islam is all about! The greatest sin is shirk... all other sins involve community in one form or another - even prayer - congregational prayer, teaching prayer, following a madhab! It is threads like this that will insha'Allah take us out of ourselves and let us realize that to gain a lot (heaven) perhaps we need to re-focus on all the little interactions we have here, during our limited time in dunya. JazakAllah khair for bringing this to our attention... let's talk about all of our responsibilities - starting from the ground up, rather from the top down (so to speak).
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