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@ Brother Saqi Ali

Saying "I don't agree" to what Brother amr 123 has posted amounts to saying no to Hadith and Brother Sadiq Ali needs to be warned . Even on the bbasis of common sense one must be good to ones parents whatever their behaviour.
Friends, success lies in in being factual, practical and just. Isn’t it a fact that we are Muslims (Alhamdullilah)? Yes, we are Muslims.Being a Muslim means that we have surrendered to Allah and His Prophet Muhammad (Sallalahu alayhi wasalam) in all matters. Yes, surrender in all matters. It is our belief that Islam is the (only) best Diin. If it is our belief then we have to follow what Allah and His Prophet (Sallalahu alayhi wasalam) has laid down in Quraan and Sunnah. These are facts; this is just and practical for all Muslims.
In this light I would like to clarify that a Muslim has rights and duties .A Muslim has duties towards Allah, himself, his family ( his /her parents and children included),fellow Muslims. neighbours, relatives, the poor, the needy etc.
I would like to discuss what we mean by saying that a Muslim has duties towards himself. A human being has a body and a soul. It is possible for a human being to be extremely careless about his body, for example , and keep it as dirty as a pig. It is possible to keep the body as clean as that of a Muslim.
I say ‘as clean as a Muslim’ on the basis of fact. No social system in the animal kingdom prescribes as much physical cleanliness as Islam. There is hardly any possibility of bodily uncleanliness for a Muslim. A Muslim has to keep his body clean in all respects and he is taught how to keep each part of his/her body clean- nails, teeth, pubic/armpit hair, nostrils, private parts, inner parts of ears, throat etc. There is not a single part of the body about which there are not unambiguous instructions in Quran and Sunnah. The daily five time Wudhu (including five time miswaak) and other prescribed activities for cleanliness make a Muslim an emblem of cleanliness physically.
Then there is the spiritual cleanliness. Nobody can be as purified spiritually as a Muslim.(By Muslim I don’t mean a person who is Muslim simply in name but who follows Quran and Sunnah in earnest in all matters and in totality). One of the most important spiritual duties of a Muslim is to follow Allah and His Prophet in all matters and in totality.
Getting back to the topic, the fact is that we are Muslims (Alhamdulillah) and as Muslims it is prescribed that children should e good to parents and parents should e good to children. It is not laid down in Quran and/or in Sunnah that a Muslim should be good to parents and/or children if they are good and should not be good to them if they are bad. What Quraan and Sunnah ordains is that parents are responsible for the well being and upbringing of their children and that children must be good to their parents.
Brother Sadiq Ali needs to rethink about his statement:
“just because you biologically produce a child doesn't make the child forever indebted to you, Allah gives life not humans.’’
A child is indebted to his parents for having biologically produced him/her. Where and what would one be if ones parents do not marry and reproduce? What about the pain ,suffering and the trouble a mothers suffers for a long period of 9 months? What about ones breast feeding by a mother? Who would feed a human child if he is just delivered and left to his/her fate? What about the protection from heat, cold, rats ,cats, dogs and what not? Even the young ones of the wildest possible animals lick their parents out of love and attachment.
The system of human reproduction is an Illahi system and being obedient, dutiful and faithful towards ones parents is a duty prescribed by Islam. Good or bad one has to be and must be good to ones parents, similarly parents are responsible for taking care of their children, whatever their behaviour.
For the sake of brevity I would take of the matter of home - schooling separately.
Wa ma alyna illal balagh .