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Slight disagreement, but staying on topic i'm not sure I agree with home schooling.

If you come to a kuffar country or born there, you should look at giving your children the ability to face their kuffar neighbours. If children are home schooled how will they know how to deal with certain situations they might come up against when in a kuffar country.

Obviously i don't know the full situation the sister is in, nor the country but I talk of home schooling generally, especially for muslim children in the west. Conventional school not only teaches subject matter but about things like teamwork which are practical skills which are needed when e.g. the child goes on to university.

I believe as long as the parents give the child "unconditional love", the child will never do anything that they know will hurt their parents. I know people who kept off ciggarates/drugs not because if their parents find out they will get beaten black and blue but because if they find out the mother will probably not eat for a week out of sadness and cry herself silly.

You can disagree. My husband did disagree with me at first place when I decide to homeschool my kids. My eldest daughter finish her primary school , in school. Me myself used to go to school, but back in Malaysia and I did my homeschool from age 13 in secondary education. Now we living in UK and for your information, my kids face kuffar neighbour brilliantly. Where we live, is all non muslin English. Alhamdulillah, not just my boys had friend over most of the time after school time and weekend, but sometimes his friend also sleep over!! This non muslim English friend.

Teamwork? Alhamdulillah as we homeschool, kids are not just stay among team with their age group, but they also learn to work with different age group as we are in REAL life.

Alhamdulillah there are 150 thousand kids are homeschool in UK alone and I would say about 80% at least are non muslim. My kids friend all wish they can be homeschool.

Bless with the situation now, we had so many things in the internet. My daughter is on online school and she had many non muslim friends and they live all over the world. Some in Thailand, some in US, some scattered around in UK and etc. My youngest went to Karate club in local community centre. They went library club and etc. Alhamdulillah with homeschool, we able to pick and choose the best we parents think for them and suitable for them and we can help to control what they are into. Unfortunately in school, school cannot control who's in it. But, with outside activity, even in youth club, kids are in control environment, because most of the club will not take kids who they cannot cope and they had a right to do that. So, less distraction in term of influence. Alhamdulillah kids also can learn more and quicker as they had one to one attention and the lesson can be done very quick and we can get on with other things. I would say it is very balance especially with for us , muslim. Boys be able to join friday prayer every Friday. We be able to balance and plan out curriculum and Islamic studies and quran reading very well and on top of that kids can learn REAL life of doing chores as we had wanted or not work as a team. As if they go to school, we always think they come back home and tired, therefore they need a space. But, as we are at home, we need to coorporate and they learn how to cope in between study ans real life. Alhamdulillah.

Just for your information I had kids age 16, 14, 12 and 9. As this topic is about bringing up kids, I think homeschool just fit in to be discuss as well. I am not oppose everybody into it. Yes, we can say not everybody can, but with all sort of technology these day, homeschool is very much possible. One thing I think parents think they can't, because they think they cannot control their kids. For me, if we cannot control our kids, it will be worst when they go to school. And for me, whatever reason people can bring up, socialization and etc, deen is what important for my kids. With that in the intention, Insya Allah , Allah bring the best out of it.

Socialization is just a bad point. Because unfortunately school kids only mix with their own peer. But, homeschool kids had to learn to socialize with all sort of age and background. These has give them more opportunity to cope with live better in their future when they are out and about. Fortunately we live in REAL surrounding and normal everyday routine when kids finish school. As when they finish school, they live in real world, they had to learn to sort out the house chores, going shopping, helping others around the house, deal with things outside the home. These is what most of homeschool kids are doing. Alhamdulillah.

I would say, control your kids is a need. We live not for duniya only. And if we strive for deen, Insya Allah, Allah help our duniya needs. Especially with kids now a days..fitnah is everywhere.. if we don't guard them, how we we expect others to do that on our behalf. We the one who is responsible and will be ask for what amanah that Allah had given us.

I thanks to sunniforum as when I first doing research and not yet decide to homeschool, I had stumble into sunniforum and many post here about homeschool and upbringing kids has help me make my decision which I never ever will regret. Financially is hard especially as we are in the west. School had fund from LEA about 3000-5000 a year from tax payer. And as we pay lots of tax, sending kids to school in one way to get out tax spend on our kids. But, as we are homeschool, after tax, what ever we got we had to spend on our kids education on our own. But, Allah give barakah, Insya Allah. It is sad for me to see, there are many many and many non muslim kids homeschool because they think school give bad influence for their kids rather than good. This si also one reason I keep asking my self before, if non muslim willing to homeschool their kids because they scared of the influence and bad environment, how about us muslim? We should strive more into our kids upbringing.