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Those who backbite habitually can just not help exposing the faults of others in social gatherings. It exposes their own flagrant weakness of character and morals; by lashing out at absentees with their tongues, they lose their own self-respect and dignity. Any wise person will be able to recognize the malice in such people, and abstain from mingling too much with them.

Return their bad behavior with good. Nothing extinguishes fire like water! Successful people don't just ignore malice - they take every opportunity to convert their foes into friends. The best way to do that - and the most difficult - is by doing good to such people as soon as the chance comes by.

If your relative is sick, visit him at the hospital with some flowers and wish him a quick recovery. Chances are your strained relationship with him will get better too, as a result.

Never stoop to their level ! Don't fight fire with fire. If you start returning tit for tat, you are no better than they. Two negatives don't make a positive. Don't resort to revenge, no matter how tempted you might be. Some gossip-mongers might entice you to a cat-fight by saying, "Did you hear what [jealous person] said about you?". Ignore these attempts at war; others just want to be entertained at your expense. It will make the situation even worse if you returned the favours.

Backbiting is not something one cannot get over. If one is desirous of attaining the Pleasure of Allah, willing to conceal and overlook people's faults, and constantly alert to one's own mistakes, shortcomings and faults, one will eventually be able to eliminate this negative habit - and its proponents - from his or her life.