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As-Salaamu 'alaykum wa-Rahmatullah

The Hadith states :

‘He who gives equal treatment in response does not really strengthen family bonds; but he is the one, who, through kind behaviour, strengthens his ties of kinship with those who sever relations with him.’


THE FOLLOWING IS AN EXTRACT THE BOOK "AASHIQ-E-SAWDIQ"
BY SHAYKH YUNUS PATEL (RA)
[website : yunuspatel.co.za]

"Allah Ta’ala instructs:


“AND BE PATIENT (O MUHAMMAD (Sallallaahu 'alayhi wa-Sallam) WITH WHAT THEY SAY, AND KEEP AWAY FROM THEM IN A GOOD WAY.”
[SURAH MUZZAMMIL 73 : 10]

When the disbelievers maligned Nabi (Sallallaahu 'alayhi wa-Sallam) with insulting and blasphemous titles such as ‘majnoon’, ‘soothsayer’, ‘magician’ and the likes, Allah Ta’ala prescribed that sabr (patience) be adopted.

In the Tafseer of this ayat, the Mufassireen make mention that ‘Hajrann Jameel’ directs us to politely keep aloof of those who mock, not to complain to others of their hurtful and troublesome behaviour, nor become physically or verbally abusive, nor retaliate and requite evil with evil. Rather accommodate in a selfless manner a quality which Allah Ta’ala prefers from His servants :

Allah Ta’ala says in the Qur`aan Sharief :


“THE GOOD DEED AND THE EVIL DEED CANNOT BE EQUAL. REPEL (THE EVIL) WITH THAT WHICH IS BETTER (TO BE PATIENT, FORGIVE, ETC.), THEN VERILY, HE BETWEEN WHOM AND YOU THERE WAS ENMITY, (WILL BECOME) AS THOUGH HE WAS A CLOSE FRIEND.”
[SURAH FUSSILAAT 41 : 34]

This attitude was not only part of the disposition of the Ambiyaa (‘Alaihimus Salaam) but is a very apparent quality of the Auliya Allah : together with patience and forgiveness there is always du’aa for the guidance of those who harmed them, and a continuous effort is made towards their guidance.


“AND VERILY, WHOSOEVER SHOWS PATIENCE AND FORGIVES THAT WOULD TRULY BE FROM THE THINGS
RECOMMENDED BY ALLAH.”
[SURAH ASH-SHUURA 42 : 43]"

May Allah Ta'ala grant me and all of us such beautiful and noble qualities.