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I just have a few things to say...and inshAllah they will be helpful for you.

First of all, not only was this incident a test from Allah for your sister and mother, but surely it was and is a test for you. How you handle this sensitive situation can make or break your family...and their future. You are mashAllah the man of the house...you are your sister`s older brother. She looks up to you...if not now...sooner or later, she will see a role model in you. If you open up to her (to an extent) and explain to her the bliss of imaan is to leave these sins...and she sees that how strong you are by leaving your past behind, repenting, changing your ways, LEAVING the bad company..... she will be influenced inshAllah.

inshAllah you shouldn`t wait any longer to speak to her. Explain to her the importance of being pure in thoughts and actions, and how keeping the bad company can ruin your life forever. First you should become a trusting friend to your sister....you both have to become close and supportive for each other. As the sister advised above, give her gifts and a card (tell her how much you love, respect, and care for her). Show it in actions... don`t show her disgust and don`t avoid her... she needs her older brother! (the family support is extremely important for her.... remember how she tried to commit suicide!! Well...just by that incident...one can see the emotional turmoil she is going through... she needs YOU! inshAllah. (That would have been the WORST of all crimes and sins for her.....)
She needs to know that you forgave her...she needs to know that you don`t and won`t judge her based on her past mistakes. Let her know...there`s a life ahead of her to prove herself (there`s always another chance) and you both need to be there for each other inshAllah.

Realize brother, that this is a test for you. Now that this incident has already happened... what will you do about it.. How will you make it better inshAllah. Think about this.

Here are a few more suggestions:
- You should get your sis to start praying (if she doesn`t already). Make it a thing you guys do together...lead her in salah (congregation). Remember prayer keeps you away from evil and immodest things.
-Try to get her to leave her bad company. She needs pious friends...or at least people who haven`t forgotten Allah!
-If you can take charge... In a positive way (with kindness not anger)... delete her facebook account and all her contacts (the guys especially). If she keeps her Facebook.. things won`t change for her (na `uthubillah). She needs to get off facebook!!!!
- Tell your mom to limit her laptop use...or at least she should always use it in front of ur mom. SOMEONE needs to take control.... the privacy she has using her laptop on her own... her cell....her fitnahbook.... etc will not let her win this battle with shaytan. You said she goes to school and comes home and doesn`t go anywhere else. but in this society these things are enough to ruin someone. The bad company in school, the peer pressure, the privacy of using the laptop... all ingredients to fall into the trap your sis fell into! trust me...i have seen it happen to so many people... boys and girls.
-Just like it took time for her to fall into this trap... it will take time and NURTURING for her to get back on track and leave these sins. She needs to be praying her salah, having company of pious people, and family support. inshAllah Allah will make it easy for you and her.


I know how you feel...it is a very difficult thing. Just try to hate the sin and not the sinner. Guide her with your support, love, care and show her you are responsible for her and you want best for her. When she says things about leaving home ...well...that is just showing you that she feels there`s a better place out there for her where she would find that comfort, support and `care`. But inshAllah she will realize SOON how selfish and foolish that is.

make a lot of dua to Allah SWT. He will surely help you and your family in this situation. Remember now you have to be MORE involved with her life... rather than avoid her.

may Allah swt make this test easy for you and your family. may Allah SWT guide each and every one of us in this fitnah-filled world we live in. may Allah give us the company of pious people and protect us from all the evils. ameen

Hope that helps inshAllah. On a personal level, I would suggest you recite this dhikr and make dua to Allah: 15 times durood (the one we recite in salah), Durood Tanjeena 72 times, and 15 times darood again and then make dua inshAllah. There is a lot of blessings in sending darood to RasulAllah s.a.w. Allah will send His mercy on you. inshAllah.

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