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Assalaamu 'alaykum ww

A very comprehensive and informative opening post, specially the first part regarding reviving the sunnah. Jazaakallah. I do however have to say that I strongly feel that all our discussions (on any topic) should be such that they become a means of da'wah to those of our Muslim brethren who are not so much on the Deen and non Muslims as well. This can only be done when with the will of Allah subhaanahu wata’ala we use both “Hikmat” (where we do NOT compromise our Deen at all and declare the truth without fear) and “Maw-’ithatil hasanah” (beautiful speech). It should not be so that it makes readers turn away from the beauty of Islamic teachings. This, in no way whatsoever means that we cover the truth or make excuses and go on the defensive mode. Insha Allah it can be done.

......Ta’addud, like any other sunnah is definitely a solution to many problems. I’d like to try and explain how it is for women. May Allah subhaanahu wata’ala make it beneficial.....

I do believe from talks with many sisters that the majority of them accept polygamy as part of Deen and do not have issues with it to the extent that it jeopardises their Deen. The stronger the connection the more accepting the woman will be despite the grief and heartache and whether she "likes" it or not she will make adjustments just as she would if she lost a loved one through death. Of course there are women who will oppose it and fight it just as they would oppose any other shar'ee command due mostly to ignorance, anti Islamic propagation and modern thinking and a weak connection with Allah and His Rasool sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam.

I hope this is not taken in the wrong way. I'm just trying to put forward the feelings of women which has been overlooked or misunderstood by many brothers during these discussions as many accusations were levelled at women. Generalising and assumptions caused a lot of bad feelings which I felt could've been avoided and to add salt to the wound a lot of joking took place, some of which was in bad taste and very “unIslamic”. I beg Allah subhaanhu wata’ala to correct me if I'm wrong

Wa alaykumusalam Warahmatullah
The assessment is very informative and points mentioned which many of us need to ponder over.

I only beccame acquinted with 'Sunni Forum' in the discussions posted in the thread titled "the danger of the 'traditionalists' " in which the obsevations made in your last paragraph is very much prevalent in many threads that become contentious. I therefore wrote :-

...."Instead of working together on common grounds with mutual respect, giving each other Naseehah with sincerity, as one brotherhood many threads unfortunately convey sarcasm name calling etc.... Many threads enter into personal attacks instead of concentrating into the substance of the subject.....

One may recall what happened to the teachings of Isa alayhimus salam when Paul of Tarsus came and mutilated the original teachings of the Injeel in the name of his different methodology to suit in his time etc.... Mutilated to such an extent that ended up in a totally different religion called the christianity of today. Sadly we do not appear to take lesson from this and legalize many prohibitions in the name of "a bigger picture".

The naseehah which is very much needed in this forum is to desist ones nafs into name calling within the threads and to concentrate on the substance without inuendos etc...

May Allah azza wa jal guide us all to the seeratal mustaqeem and forgive our sins/shortcommings and grant us Ma arifah of his DEEN. AMEEN ......."

Unfortunately such sarcasm, personal attacks, unwarranted jokes causes rancour and ill feeling amongst the participants with intentions becoming besmirched in point scoring and insincerity. Perhaps moderators need to point out when such aberrations occur in adaab within the discussions.

Also the sisters input in regard to anxiety caused to the first wife etc... needs further insight into the practices of the salaf and we need to explore ways of helping those sisters afflicted with such an anxiety. Maybe other brothers and particularly sisters can expand on such concerns... etc