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spending maximum of my time in office and on tours within the city to select various locations... Most of the time, I have to eat outside food, though I was warned not to eat outside food by the doctor.. Many times I felt it would be good if I had my wife somewhere near our office, so that I could go and eat when ever I am hungry.. But my mom would never agree for us to stay separately in the city and after all I am the only one staying with her. If we left she would be completely alone..I know that i can hire a good cook, but i dont trust outsider.

Edit: I don't mean of only cooking food, she can also work with me and when I am at office, she will be like a guard () to me, where I have to meet many no. of girls for various reasons.

Will it be a valid reason for me to do a second marriage...I am seriously thinking about it.. Nothing is important than good emaan and health. السلام عليكم

Dear Brother Not Known,

You sent me your thread link on email to read it a few days ago. I read it today. I just want to say somethings here. Although I can say it to you in private but I can't resist making it public. I registered here just to say this

The purpose of your thread is one of the following:

1) You are looking for a wife on SF

2) You want to create some activity on SF

3) "Mazay Lena" (You just want to enjoy people's comments)

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Khair, if you are serious just do mashwara with 1-2 people for Barakat. No need to ask Shaikh or Maulana's or anyone else cause it very simple that their mashwaras will always be based on their own understanding of Ta'ddud e Azwaaj. They will always discourage you in the context of hikmah. They will never consider your own needs. They will always see it as evil. They will make you feel bad for even thinking of a second wife. Some of the comments on your closed thread are very sad.

Nobody knows your situation, nobody knows what you are going through. Eveyrone gives general advices. People will do everything to stop you from getting another wife.

Just do an experiment. Go and consult any Shaikh. He won't even ask you why you need to marry, do you really need to marry, etc etc. He'll just stop you saying that When a Sunnah creates problems, it should be left. He won't tell you that we ourselves have problems with Sunnah and to correct it we should practice the sunnah. He will try his best to stop you without asking for your needs.

No need to ask anyone, just go and do it. But if you face problems in your life later on, face them with the belief that this world is a jail for Momineen and a prisoner is bound to face hardships in jail.

In short, if your wife is understanding and your mum allows you (even though you don't need her permission but still you need to make her happy), then just do it....

والسلام

Taliban

P.S: Don't tell the 2nd that you are bringing her to cook food for you :P