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**eXC3Kvnn** · 02-14-2012, 05:36 PM

السلام عليكم

The purpose of your thread is one of the following:

1) You are looking for a wife on SF

2) You want to create some activity on SF

Welcome back.. so finally I was able to drag you back on SF

1. One of the brothers asked me to post in sensitive QA about finding wife and some moderators may help. But I didn't post, if I was looking for some one only on SF.. then I would have definitely posted there.

2. Its to good to have some activity.. since many are complaining about how boring SF has become.. though i never felt SF was boring..

Khair, if you are serious just do mashwara with 1-2 people for Barakat. No need to ask Shaikh or Maulana's or anyone else cause it very simple that their mashwaras will always be based on their own understanding of Ta'ddud e Azwaaj. They will always discourage you in the context of hikmah. They will never consider your own needs. They will always see it as evil. They will make you feel bad for even thinking of a second wife. Some of the comments on your closed thread are very sad.

Nobody knows your situation, nobody knows what you are going through. Eveyrone gives general advices. People will do everything to stop you from getting another wife.

Just do an experiment. Go and consult any Shaikh. He won't even ask you why you need to marry, do you really need to marry, etc etc. He'll just stop you saying that When a Sunnah creates problems, it should be left. He won't tell you that we ourselves have problems with Sunnah and to correct it we should practice the sunnah. He will try his best to stop you without asking for your needs.

No need to ask anyone, just go and do it. But if you face problems in your life later on, face them with the belief that this world is a jail for Momineen and a prisoner is bound to face hardships in jail.

In short, if your wife is understanding and your mum allows you (even though you don't need her permission but still you need to make her happy), then just do it....

والسلام

Taliban

P.S: Don't tell the 2nd that you are bringing her to cook food for you :P

02-14-2012, 05:36 PM	#4
eXC3Kvnn Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 404 Senior Member	السلام عليكم The purpose of your thread is one of the following: 1) You are looking for a wife on SF 2) You want to create some activity on SF Welcome back.. so finally I was able to drag you back on SF 1. One of the brothers asked me to post in sensitive QA about finding wife and some moderators may help. But I didn't post, if I was looking for some one only on SF.. then I would have definitely posted there. 2. Its to good to have some activity.. since many are complaining about how boring SF has become.. though i never felt SF was boring.. Khair, if you are serious just do mashwara with 1-2 people for Barakat. No need to ask Shaikh or Maulana's or anyone else cause it very simple that their mashwaras will always be based on their own understanding of Ta'ddud e Azwaaj. They will always discourage you in the context of hikmah. They will never consider your own needs. They will always see it as evil. They will make you feel bad for even thinking of a second wife. Some of the comments on your closed thread are very sad. Nobody knows your situation, nobody knows what you are going through. Eveyrone gives general advices. People will do everything to stop you from getting another wife. Just do an experiment. Go and consult any Shaikh. He won't even ask you why you need to marry, do you really need to marry, etc etc. He'll just stop you saying that When a Sunnah creates problems, it should be left. He won't tell you that we ourselves have problems with Sunnah and to correct it we should practice the sunnah. He will try his best to stop you without asking for your needs. No need to ask anyone, just go and do it. But if you face problems in your life later on, face them with the belief that this world is a jail for Momineen and a prisoner is bound to face hardships in jail. In short, if your wife is understanding and your mum allows you (even though you don't need her permission but still you need to make her happy), then just do it.... والسلام Taliban P.S: Don't tell the 2nd that you are bringing her to cook food for you :P
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