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**Wluwsdtn** · 02-14-2012, 11:49 PM

if the brother wants to get married so that someone can cook for him then why stop him?

as long as he makes an agreement with his wife that she will cook for him and he fulfills all her material and emotional needs in return then what is wrong with that?

many wives are more than happy to cook for their husbands eventhough they do not have to as they respect the husband and are grateful to the husband for providing them shelter, food, clothing and attending to their other needs.

ABSOLUTELY EVERYONE marries with some level of selfishness, some more than others, some less than others. most women would not marry a homeless man who lives on the streets and has no job. they would want to marry a man who can provide a home, who has a job so he can provide neccesities and luxuries. so why cant a man marry a woman for HIS own needs? if the brother has a need to marry someone for home cooked food then how can there be anything wrong in that? all he has to do when finding a wife is to tell her what he wants her to do and if she agrees to that then where is the problem?

Except that don't couch this in religious term as though its a God ordained duty for a women to be his 2nd wife to cook his midday meal or that its a God ordained duty for his 1st wife to be happy and tolerable about such a husband. Unfortunately that is the idea being promoted indirectly, that a "good" muslimah would be quite submissive and ready to be a midday cooker wife for this poor little chubby bubu guy who can't control his desires in his office time, while the not so strong muslimahs have to be soaped and scrubed and brought into agreement to be midday cooker wife and a similar behaviour should be supposedly expected from his 1st wife to be a perfect muslimah.

02-14-2012, 11:49 PM	#15
Wluwsdtn Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 596 Senior Member	if the brother wants to get married so that someone can cook for him then why stop him? as long as he makes an agreement with his wife that she will cook for him and he fulfills all her material and emotional needs in return then what is wrong with that? many wives are more than happy to cook for their husbands eventhough they do not have to as they respect the husband and are grateful to the husband for providing them shelter, food, clothing and attending to their other needs. ABSOLUTELY EVERYONE marries with some level of selfishness, some more than others, some less than others. most women would not marry a homeless man who lives on the streets and has no job. they would want to marry a man who can provide a home, who has a job so he can provide neccesities and luxuries. so why cant a man marry a woman for HIS own needs? if the brother has a need to marry someone for home cooked food then how can there be anything wrong in that? all he has to do when finding a wife is to tell her what he wants her to do and if she agrees to that then where is the problem? Except that don't couch this in religious term as though its a God ordained duty for a women to be his 2nd wife to cook his midday meal or that its a God ordained duty for his 1st wife to be happy and tolerable about such a husband. Unfortunately that is the idea being promoted indirectly, that a "good" muslimah would be quite submissive and ready to be a midday cooker wife for this poor little chubby bubu guy who can't control his desires in his office time, while the not so strong muslimahs have to be soaped and scrubed and brought into agreement to be midday cooker wife and a similar behaviour should be supposedly expected from his 1st wife to be a perfect muslimah.
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