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**Wluwsdtn** · 02-15-2012, 01:13 AM

probably not many. but then again there are people who do give their daughters as 2nd/3rd/4th wives.

why do you have a problem with something that was practiced by the Prophet and the sahaba (rd)?

The question was to personalise it and not give answers on others behalf. If your reluctant it shows there are issues behind your suppport. The sunnah teaches us that imaan is not complete until a person would want for his brother what he wants for himself. If you wouldn't want your own daughter in such a situation, then wishing it upon the daughters of others is problematic.

I do not see anyone either religious or jahil who would give his daughter to be someones midday cooker 2nd wife. Unless if the person was such a religious blessing and a relationship with him would in anycase have spiritual significance in establishing geneological connection. The only person otherwise who would be subject to agree would be the people of poverty who are forced into giving their daughter, as in the case of gulf Arab frauds preying on poor young women in foreign countries as we see in plenty of cases, because these poor people are not knowledgable and sharp enough to recognise or poverty has forced them to it.

And before ascribing it to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

1) note that it was a custom even before the prophet

2) slavery was also a custom, so you should infact support it today and promote slavery as per your criteria
3) do clarify if you have any basis to think that they had the intention of marrying multiple women to merely cook their midday meals.

And when you quote the hadith of tirmidhi, its like quoting hadith on obedience to parents and apply it in forcing women to get married or using it to pressure women to get married to someone irreligious. I.e your misplacing the hadith and intending by it what was not intended in the text. And it is indeed contridictory as the sunnah is to choose a partner based on his/her religious piety or else be ruined. While what is being promoted here is to choose a partner based on who would be ready to be a midday cooker wife.

02-15-2012, 01:13 AM	#20
Wluwsdtn Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 596 Senior Member	probably not many. but then again there are people who do give their daughters as 2nd/3rd/4th wives. why do you have a problem with something that was practiced by the Prophet and the sahaba (rd)? The question was to personalise it and not give answers on others behalf. If your reluctant it shows there are issues behind your suppport. The sunnah teaches us that imaan is not complete until a person would want for his brother what he wants for himself. If you wouldn't want your own daughter in such a situation, then wishing it upon the daughters of others is problematic. I do not see anyone either religious or jahil who would give his daughter to be someones midday cooker 2nd wife. Unless if the person was such a religious blessing and a relationship with him would in anycase have spiritual significance in establishing geneological connection. The only person otherwise who would be subject to agree would be the people of poverty who are forced into giving their daughter, as in the case of gulf Arab frauds preying on poor young women in foreign countries as we see in plenty of cases, because these poor people are not knowledgable and sharp enough to recognise or poverty has forced them to it. And before ascribing it to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, 1) note that it was a custom even before the prophet 2) slavery was also a custom, so you should infact support it today and promote slavery as per your criteria 3) do clarify if you have any basis to think that they had the intention of marrying multiple women to merely cook their midday meals. And when you quote the hadith of tirmidhi, its like quoting hadith on obedience to parents and apply it in forcing women to get married or using it to pressure women to get married to someone irreligious. I.e your misplacing the hadith and intending by it what was not intended in the text. And it is indeed contridictory as the sunnah is to choose a partner based on his/her religious piety or else be ruined. While what is being promoted here is to choose a partner based on who would be ready to be a midday cooker wife.
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