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**PetraCromlich** · 02-15-2012, 06:13 AM

This is the problem I have with the movement pushing people into a 2nd nikkah. They are not teaching and educating anything, just pushing people into situations they have no knowledge about.

I think before we make people rush headlong into a 2nd nikkah, first we have to give them some knowledge about rights and responsibilities. In this case it was evident, OP has desire for a 2nd wife to cook him lunch - ya we dont live life by the book and no one lives their household life according solely within boundaries of huqooq, there is a lot of flexibility - but at least huqooq should be known and understood. This is why I recommended that he get in touch with an alim/shaikh and go over his situation and that he approach this plainly to get a 2nd wife and not approach it to get a 2nd wife who will cook lunch for him. Any alim shaikh would tell him that this is not a wise approach.

What if OP had found a girl for 2nd nikkah, set her up in the other flat and asked her to cook and she had refused to cook? His house of cards would fall.

02-15-2012, 06:13 AM	#27
PetraCromlich Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 467 Senior Member	This is the problem I have with the movement pushing people into a 2nd nikkah. They are not teaching and educating anything, just pushing people into situations they have no knowledge about. I think before we make people rush headlong into a 2nd nikkah, first we have to give them some knowledge about rights and responsibilities. In this case it was evident, OP has desire for a 2nd wife to cook him lunch - ya we dont live life by the book and no one lives their household life according solely within boundaries of huqooq, there is a lot of flexibility - but at least huqooq should be known and understood. This is why I recommended that he get in touch with an alim/shaikh and go over his situation and that he approach this plainly to get a 2nd wife and not approach it to get a 2nd wife who will cook lunch for him. Any alim shaikh would tell him that this is not a wise approach. What if OP had found a girl for 2nd nikkah, set her up in the other flat and asked her to cook and she had refused to cook? His house of cards would fall.
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