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Old 02-13-2012, 11:31 AM   #31
InsManKV

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In human terms, in terms of any notion of justice, the unilateral, arbitrary and whimsical right of a Muslim male to divorce his wife in an instant – a letter, telegram, telephone, telex, fax even an SMS would do – cannot be described as anything but inhuman and anti-women.

In rational terms it defies any definition of justice or equity. Triple talaq l because it is so blatantly unjust, unfair, arbitrary and discriminatory.

Even theologically, it is difficult to digest the position long held by the ulema and that Though bad in theology (sinful), triple talaq is good in law".

What this means in simple terms is that the moment a Muslim male utters talaq, talaq, talaq, his wife becomes unlawful to him, even if he has uttered those words under coercion, in a fit of rage or in a drunken state and regrets his utterance the very next moment. The only way out for the couple to resume their marital relation, the ulema say, is through halala: the woman must marry someone else, consummate the marriage, get the second husband to divorce her and then remarry the first husband.

It is repeatedly claimed, that justice and equality are the key social message of Islam. How can the practice of triple talaq be squared with any notion of justice or equity?
It is good that you have expressed your feelings openly. Now cool down and look at your own words with patience. You shall realize that you are objecting to Shariah. Objecting to something that is ordained by Allah(SWT) is a very serious business. There was a women whose four sons were martyred but she was not perturbed. You are perturbed, rather seriously, by a prospect which may or may not be expressly relevant for you. Let us ponder over the reality. Divorce rates in Muslims are not famous for being high. Girl survival in Muslims is better than the majority community in India. Muslims have not reduced the institution of a marriage to a sham as in the west. Unfortunately even in Muslim society there is some feeling that the western deal of independence of woman is better than what Islam offers. This is a folly - everybody knows about the western degradation of women but even then they are rushing for it. This is the only alternative that anybody has in his mind when blasting Islam. And in deed the alternative is horrendous.

Finally if a man comes to the realization that he is not willing to carry on a marriage then it is pointless to make any effort to force him to continue with it. Marriage is not a trivial institution or commitment. And please leave those fickle minded people who can utter a word three times a fit of rage - it is unlikely that otherwise also they shall carry the responsibility of marriage with elan.

Finally about equality. Hasn't Allah(SWT) said that man and women are equal? Perhaps you want to thwart the tie breaker in which Allah(SWT) says that man has slight upper hand over woman. My suggestion to you brother will be not to try that and fool yourself. I have heard it from more than one women that they want to be possessed. And this psyche has been put there by Lord Most High - do not fight it and create impossible alternatives.

Since the points are intricate I might have missed something crucial so my apologies in advance and I am present for clarifications.
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