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While I'm glad you found this resource useful (and saddened by your decision), I have to say I think your reasoning process is flawed. Whether a religion suits our own personal outlook or not is not a measure of its truth or validity. Instead, the truth of a religion is based on the proofs put forward to demonstrate that the scripture is in fact a Revelation from God (assuming one believes in God to begin with). So if a person believes that the Quran is revelation from God, and that Muhammad is His final messenger who delivered that revelation to the world, then he is Muslim. Of course, if you believe that God is telling you to behave in a certain way, the logical thing to do is obey, whether you feel it's "controlling" or "right" or not.

Likewise, if someone doesn't believe that the Quran is divine revelation, and that Muhammad is the final messenger, he is not a Muslim.

And I also do not have anything particularly against the basics of Islam - the five pillars, the spirituality, the Quran being a divine revelation and Muhammad being the last prophet, the narrative about how life is a test, etc. I do not deny them (although I don't believe in them either).

Your statement in bold is nonsensical. Either you believe the Quran is revelation from God, and that Muhammad is His last messenger, in which case you are Muslim. Or you don't, in which case you are not Muslim.