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iam an muslem girl ... my father is insisting on marrying an old man because of his money.
should i obey him ?? as a muslim girl to obey her father no matter what ?

i am feeling lost i dont know what am going to do

i believe in marrying and raising kids like islam teaches us and am a believer in obeying parents am feeling lost

you shoudlnt obey your parents:


"A non-virgin woman may not be married without her command, and a virgin may not be married without her permission; and enough permission for her is to remain silent (because of her natural shyness)." [Al-Bukhari, Muslim, and others]

Thus the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), prohibits forcing a virgin in marriage without her permission, whether it be her father or someone else. Furthermore, Ayshah said that she asked the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) "In the case of a young girl whose parents marry her, should her permission be sought or not?" He replied, "Yes, she must give her permission." She then said, "But a virgin will be shy, O Allah's Messenger." He answered:

"Her silence is [considered as] her permission." [Al-Bukhari, Muslim, and others]


Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah said:
The parents do not have the right to force their child to marry someone whom he does not want, and if he refuses he is not being disobedient towards them, as is the case when he does not eat what he does not want.
Al-Ikhtiyaaraat, 344.


you are not obeying Allah by being forced into a marriage with a person you dont love for the benefit of money.

If you want to be obedient to Allah, dont get married, and then marry a righteous husband who you are pleased with when you are ready to marry inshAllah