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its not obedience no matter what. one's self rights are to be considered also. e.g. obeying a husband is very important but he cannot command his wife to not sleep and stand on one leg all night.

similary parents cant command to kufr or wheres ones personal rights are violated. Since its the person getting married and not the parent similar situation will apply. Personal rights will have preference.

Personal whims should not be mistaken for personal desires and whims. Sometimes our parents see for us, what we may not be attuned to seeing. Assuming your father is only doing it for money and not for some other benefit to you, you should hold firm on your refusal.