[ugosanchezo]

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maybe someone can enlighten me on something I am not sure about. I was talking to a sister who called me earlier today. I don't want to say alot so this doesn't turn into a back biting thread astagfirulla but just want some advice maybe some hadith to support your answer.

We all have friends/family and naturally we have different levels of closeness with each one, some we are closer to more than others some we get along with more etc. If I am in this situation I personally prefer to stay on good terms with everyone and if I am not in agreement with someone about something I will let it pass as I avoid debates and confrontations ....I just don't like to get into them!!

So.....does doing so, make me a person that has keena in my heart? I am avoiding a situation, if it's a trivial thing it doesn't matter to me I don't see point in argueing, if it's a personal attack on my self I might politely correct them and let them know the truth to my knowledge but if I can't do so ( because It might get into a arguement/fallout) I leave it to Allah. Again...is this keena in my heart?

I gave my reasons for not wanting to confront, as sometimes confronting causes families to break up, and I feel that if by leaving it and just ignoring anything keeps family ties together is it wrong to do this?

So what do you think? I was told today that not saying so makes one face look ugly, you look aged, and it reflects on the face :/

JazakAllah for reading, I hope I havn't confused you!!