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**fkisjjdhh** · 12-26-2011, 03:29 AM

Dear brother I would advise that you finish any studies and have a career to support your wife and then marry. You are rather young so you have time inshallah. Not all women require money and it is not sunnah to demand a high dowry and gold. I married my husband with one dress, a silver wedding band and a promise of £50 when he had it. The important thing to remember is that if she is the right one for you Allah will make it easy.

Salam 'Aleykum,

The problem is not with the sisters, they're wonderful and modest, the problem is with their parents who only care about (Do you have a well paid job, do you own a house, do you own a car, do you own a boat ect...) Then there's the dowry and the gold that she's supposed to wear and you'll have to pay in the Khutbah, then in Katb al-Kitab, then in The wedding ceremony which is pretty much throwing a party...

Ok that's enough of me moaning and complaining

you'd have to be lucky to find reasonable parents these days, it still hasn't sunk in that the economic conditions are VERY BAD all over the world, so in the near future maybe the wife will return to living with her mother in law like the old days... It's as if you're marrying the parents not the girl.

May Allah make it easy on those who wish to marry.

12-26-2011, 03:29 AM	#19
fkisjjdhh Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 460 Senior Member	Dear brother I would advise that you finish any studies and have a career to support your wife and then marry. You are rather young so you have time inshallah. Not all women require money and it is not sunnah to demand a high dowry and gold. I married my husband with one dress, a silver wedding band and a promise of £50 when he had it. The important thing to remember is that if she is the right one for you Allah will make it easy. Salam 'Aleykum, The problem is not with the sisters, they're wonderful and modest, the problem is with their parents who only care about (Do you have a well paid job, do you own a house, do you own a car, do you own a boat ect...) Then there's the dowry and the gold that she's supposed to wear and you'll have to pay in the Khutbah, then in Katb al-Kitab, then in The wedding ceremony which is pretty much throwing a party... Ok that's enough of me moaning and complaining you'd have to be lucky to find reasonable parents these days, it still hasn't sunk in that the economic conditions are VERY BAD all over the world, so in the near future maybe the wife will return to living with her mother in law like the old days... It's as if you're marrying the parents not the girl. May Allah make it easy on those who wish to marry.
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