[LoloLibia]

However, if both spouses agree to spend time apart from one another or sleep separately and be together occasionally in order that they maintain their passion for one another and the spark and excitement in their sexual relations, then there seems no reason why this would not be permitted, provided it is mutually agreed.

In fact, the renowned scholar of Hadith and Hanbali jurist, Imam Abu’l Faraj ibn al-Jawzi (may Allah have mercy on him) suggests that it may be healthy for the marriage if both spouses slept separately and only united when they were fully prepared for intimacy.

He states in his work, Sayd al-Khatir:

“A woman should not be intimate [sexually] with her husband too often since he may become bored, and she should not become too distant from him [also] since he may forget her.” (Sayd al-Khatir, p: 605)

He further states:

“The wife should have her own bed (firash) and the husband should have his own bed. They should not engage in intimacy except in a state of [physical] perfection.” (Sayd al-Khatir, p: 606)

What Imam al-Jawzi (may Allah have mercy on him) is implying here is that both spouses should avoid being intimate with one another when they are physically in an undesirable state such as them being in their filthy work-clothes. This can be a “turn off” for one’s spouse and thus result in detrimental consequences.

As such, he states in another place in the same book that couples should fix a certain time of the day or night for sexual relations in order that both spouses are prepared physically and psychologically. Not only will this increase and enhance their pleasure, it will also eliminate the possibility of any one of them being in an undesirable or unprepared state of the mind or body. (Sayd al-Khatir P: 280)

In conclusion, it is permitted for a married couple to see each other occasionally due to the reason outlined in the question, provided this is mutually agreed and the rights of one’s spouse are not violated

http://www.daruliftaa.com/question?t...nID=q-14420539