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**Eromaveabeara** · 11-28-2011, 06:06 AM

Im new to this forum so please be nice

Basically, I am really confused about a marriage matter and would like some insight/a perspective because I have become really depressed, and cry every day and night!

I once received a marriage proposal, I did istikhara, it didnt work out (realised later it was gd because i wouldnt hve fulfilled my dreams if i was with him), second marriage proposal was from a divorced man who had a child, i did istikhara, again didnt work out even though he was a perfect choice but probaby gd for me as maybe i wasnt ready to be a mother that quick.

Anyway, after that I kept praying and praying to get married. Another guy came into my life, he was a good practicing muslim and gr8 character. I said no first and began praying alot. Few months the same guy proposed again. I was still unsure and afraid to do istikharah because i was afraid he would be taken away from me. Ramadan came and I realised he was the only man I kept praying for. I did istikharah again and felt positive . Recently he propsed with a ring to me and I said yes and accepted the ring. His family knows, mines do not. Does this make us formally engaged???? Living in the west, this makes me formally engaged but i want to know the islamic view

Will somone help me please?

11-28-2011, 06:06 AM	#1
Eromaveabeara Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 510 Senior Member	New on forum: Help in a marriage question.Will someone be kind enough to help me pls? Im new to this forum so please be nice Basically, I am really confused about a marriage matter and would like some insight/a perspective because I have become really depressed, and cry every day and night! I once received a marriage proposal, I did istikhara, it didnt work out (realised later it was gd because i wouldnt hve fulfilled my dreams if i was with him), second marriage proposal was from a divorced man who had a child, i did istikhara, again didnt work out even though he was a perfect choice but probaby gd for me as maybe i wasnt ready to be a mother that quick. Anyway, after that I kept praying and praying to get married. Another guy came into my life, he was a good practicing muslim and gr8 character. I said no first and began praying alot. Few months the same guy proposed again. I was still unsure and afraid to do istikharah because i was afraid he would be taken away from me. Ramadan came and I realised he was the only man I kept praying for. I did istikharah again and felt positive . Recently he propsed with a ring to me and I said yes and accepted the ring. His family knows, mines do not. Does this make us formally engaged???? Living in the west, this makes me formally engaged but i want to know the islamic view Will somone help me please?
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