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**Paybeskf** · 11-23-2011, 12:17 AM

Assalamu alaikum.
My wife never wore hijab in her life, I told her that she should & I would prefer her to.
So, she put it on & wore it for a few days, then said I feel uncomfortable? Since this she has stopped praying all together, she won't watch lectures because it makes her feel bad about not wearing hijab etc...
I have tried so hard to encourage her, she went out and bought all new clothes which I was very happy with but doesn't wear them or hijab..
What do I do? I feel bad & cannot bring myself to force her to wear it as its just not me to do this... I try talking to her but she just says I'm not ready? I don't feel somfortable around the people at my kids school? None of it makes sense and just seems like excuses?
Please help me? What should I do?

Please don't pressure or force her but encourage her nicely. Find a good group of sisters who are practicing for her to befriend and be around. Positive company have an effect on people. Continue to make dua for her guidance.

Do you have friends whose wives are in hijab/niqab? Maybe you can invite them over to your home or encourage her to meet with them,spend time with them etc..

I have a non muslim friend whose married to a Muslim man for a few years and she's not reverted to Islam as yet. When I met her I was the first Muslim she ever conversed with . In the few months I have known her , her perception to Islam have changed very much. She told me she was not interested in Islam at all and her husband would tell her stuff only when she ask.He's never pressured her or force her as he wants her to accept Islam on her own. Since meeting me and getting exposed to other Muslim sisters she's actually at the door and considering entering
( reverting to Islam) . She asked me for a Hijab, I never once brought up the Hijab issue..... this is just one example I've seen and experienced where sisters show interest just by being around good company.....

We all need a spiritual boost and either we create that environment in our homes or attend places where we can get that spiritual uplift.

May Allah

make it easy for you and you wife and grant us all hidayah aameen

11-23-2011, 12:17 AM	#5
Paybeskf Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 509 Senior Member	Assalamu alaikum. My wife never wore hijab in her life, I told her that she should & I would prefer her to. So, she put it on & wore it for a few days, then said I feel uncomfortable? Since this she has stopped praying all together, she won't watch lectures because it makes her feel bad about not wearing hijab etc... I have tried so hard to encourage her, she went out and bought all new clothes which I was very happy with but doesn't wear them or hijab.. What do I do? I feel bad & cannot bring myself to force her to wear it as its just not me to do this... I try talking to her but she just says I'm not ready? I don't feel somfortable around the people at my kids school? None of it makes sense and just seems like excuses? Please help me? What should I do? Please don't pressure or force her but encourage her nicely. Find a good group of sisters who are practicing for her to befriend and be around. Positive company have an effect on people. Continue to make dua for her guidance. Do you have friends whose wives are in hijab/niqab? Maybe you can invite them over to your home or encourage her to meet with them,spend time with them etc.. I have a non muslim friend whose married to a Muslim man for a few years and she's not reverted to Islam as yet. When I met her I was the first Muslim she ever conversed with . In the few months I have known her , her perception to Islam have changed very much. She told me she was not interested in Islam at all and her husband would tell her stuff only when she ask.He's never pressured her or force her as he wants her to accept Islam on her own. Since meeting me and getting exposed to other Muslim sisters she's actually at the door and considering entering ( reverting to Islam) . She asked me for a Hijab, I never once brought up the Hijab issue..... this is just one example I've seen and experienced where sisters show interest just by being around good company..... We all need a spiritual boost and either we create that environment in our homes or attend places where we can get that spiritual uplift. May Allah make it easy for you and you wife and grant us all hidayah aameen
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