[Garry Richardson]

Bismillah Al-Rehman Al-Raheem

Assalam-Alaikum:

Brother, please, please do not ever feel embarrassed about not knowing something or seeking knowledge. For myself, I still do not know many things and feel like a newborn baby sometimes uncovering some facet which I did not have the senses or knowledge to understand previously. So, please be patient with yourself, Brother. And may Allah bless you in that.

Also, Brother, you have been given good advice here in this thread with regards to your wife. The most important thing in my experience is to make your home a peaceful and welcoming culture of learning because the first thing to do is always to attach the hearts to Allah and then Insha-Allah everything will follow from that from His blessing and mercy as He wills. Insha-Allah, Brother, Allah will enable both you and your wife to grow in faith together.

Also, Brother, I don't know if you noticed this, but I think your own last post answered as to what your approach should be with regards to your wife. In your post, you urged others to patience with you simply because you did not understand a few words of others. But, Brother, would your wife not love even more to have you, her husband and helper, be patient with her?

Brother, Masha-Allah, Allah has inspired you to put good and fruitful practices into place in your life, but have patience with yourself because you will never know everything. I know I don't know anything. And have patience with others in your life like your wife because Allah loves for people to be patient with others because that shows good character and manners and then Allah will Insha-Allah bless you in what you want of your wife for the sake of Allah.

If I have said anything that is good and true, it is from Allah, and anything other than that is my own mistake.