It seems like everyone on this thread has concluded that you can do only one or the other - If this is the case how do you folks hold jobs and still remain Tj's or spend time with your famlies and a still perform your prescribed awrad? Like other brothers have said - there are extremists in every camp, they are not the norm, and are usually the least knowledgable of the group. No one has even touched on the fact that there may be other reasons why someone would refrain from Tableeghi jamaat activities. I for one am involved in tassawuf, and I dont go kharooj with the Tj's, I have my own reasons. Reasons that need not be shared because I know how much the members of this forum love TJ. So I may be one the people the OP was looking for when he asked his original question. I refrain from TJ not because of any of the reasons you listed, in fact those reasons sound a little dumb to me, but for a variety of other reasons (which will remain nameless so DONT ASK).