Aleikom salam akhi, thx for your concerns brothers, and yes your right completely, i'm raised western like you can be raised western, i'm from Holland, and converted to islam like 1 and a half year ago. Your right, actually i love the prophet's expression that : "that Allah swt will provide a source of mercy for those who have been cursed by the prophet, with no valid reason enough for it' . I only wonder why the prophet saw did it to that orphan girls, which gave me that confusing confeelig and feeling of misunderstanding. I will remove indeed the phrase "i cannot imagine the prophet doing this etc.." brothers thanks for your concerns, sometimes i just need to relief my heart and feelings. wa salam