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Salaam sis, sorry to hear the difficultues your going through, may Allah make things easy for you

The 9 year old you mentioned happens to be one of teh greatest scholars islam has ever seen, not to mention one of their greatest and most honoured, so Im sure our mother ayesha radiyaAllahu anha is ok and doesnt need peoples sympathy when the almighty creator of the universe has even affirmed that he is pleased with her, how many of us can say that?

If you only see negative things, it sounds like you have been reading anti islamic websites.

I went through this stage, those sites gave me doubt about my deen as they bobarded me with any contraversial thing they could find and give it the most negative spin they could.

After reading the hadeeths on my own, I realised they would take one hadeeth, out of a whole chapter, for example on jihad, or stoning. So they would make islam look bad. But, as i read through teh hadeeths myself, i saw so much beauty. we live in an age where some givernments are spending millions on research into islam to produce websites and propaganda to make teh result you are epxerieningm, they try to make us doubt our deen, but it only makes the sincere stronger in their deen, and i truely believe this.

i am western born and bred and accepted islam at 24. im educated, doing a degree in electronic engienering, so noone can say i was duped. i didnt get into it through marriage. i took shahada for no reason except for how beautiful our deen is.

i realise the attitudes of some of the elders can be off putting but we are the next geenration and inshAllah we will make the changes to make the deen beautiful to our next generation inshAllah. Be patient, ask Alah for gudiance, and be around muslims and read islamic literature and inshAllah imaan will setle in your heart.

Islam isnt restrictive and your parents shouldnt be treating you how you described and this should be a wakeup callto muslims on how they need to treat their women. islam gives good rights to women and i really believe that, and the best of believers are kind to their women, so let us try to implement this inshallah. contraversial issues only harden our hearts and destory our imaan so i dont get too involved personally and prefer to focus on the heart warming things