[FUNALA]

Brother London786, have you not found that here, in the UK, a man who takes on a second wife in this manner, where he is barely able to look after the first wife's financial needs and has children but spends little time with them or her, but takes on a second wife and expects her to waive her rights to equal time and maintenance is not at all helping a widow/divorcee but is actually creating a situation where he himself will end up leading a life of perpetual injustice and will end up having not one but two dissatisfied wives, children who are not only neglected and exposed to constant uncertainty but who grow up under the strain of their parents feuding, their mothers tears and depression and a second wife who will most likely change her mind after marriage and demand equal rights and will go to lengths to make sure she gets it?

Please step back, remove any positive or negative notions you have about polygamy and answer based on any experience you have or examples you have seen of this situation. Have the brothers of the forum moved from a stance where they not only promote polygamous marriages generally and without looking at individual cases, regardless of whether he is inclined to it, and irrespective of the state of his current marriage and other factors to a collective stance where you encourage him to take second wife even is he has no time and money for one wife in the hope that she waive her rights?

This is an honest question. Do not go for my jugular please. I am requesting that you take a step back and think of the whole picture with a clear head and tell me whether you really think this is a good idea and will mean he has two successful marriages? I personally feel, it is completely against the spirit of Islamic principles.