Apa UmHasan in my own experience I've just seen bad experiences and I can't think of a good one. These are all the cases I know. I have not seen any long term marriages like this work. This is my own experience and I've highlighted the reasons and urged great caution in this matter. I have had phone calls in the middle of the night requesting me to do nikah etc and that is the situation we live in. Seriously what is a guy like me supposed to do when our community refuses to acknowledge the problem. I have seen no good come about from the majority of such marriages. I know 1 brother who has 3 wives. His parents dont know about the other 2 wives and his other children. His first wife knows but his parents dont know. Imagine if this guy dies then what about his inheritence? How about the kids knowing their grandparents. What I'm saying is we have a problem with divorcees. Now the solution??? Men can't afford 2 wives realistically unless the lady waives some maintanance costs. However if this happens there are major problems associated with this. I also agree that it goes against the spirit of shariah.